You are my daughter, but I am not your mother.
In my eyes and in my heart, you are a daughter to me; I love you like I love my son. I would do anything for you, and I have put you first always. And I always will. I cook for you, I bake with you, I teach you to read and help you with your school work.
I showed you how to tie your shoes, and I happily buy you clothes. Its fun to take you shopping!
I help you to bathe, get showered, and dressed. And I tuck you in at night and sweetly kiss your forehead.
We play dress up and we play with makeup and nail polish. And when it comes time for arts and crafts, we create beautiful things for your mommy.
We are a team as we sing songs together, cross the street holding hands, and watch movies cuddling on the couch together.
When we took that trip to Disneyland, we held hands in the ocean. And I offer hugs to you when you need emotional support when others hurt your feelings or you are upset.
We take trips to the gym, park and everywhere else. I show you what it means to be the best version of yourself, but that is so easy because you are the sweetest person on your own.
I Am Your Bonus Mom
I love you with my whole heart. But that does not make me your mother. I know I will never replace her.
Your mother has set firm boundaries and made it clear time and time again that you are not to call me mom. And I understand that, and I am not trying to replace her.
I prefer the term bonus mom. I am an extra person in your life. And one who loves you very much. I will always love you and will always help take care of you.
To me, a stepmom, means that I married your father. It is a legal term to me. You mean so much more to me than that. I don’t love you the way that I do just because I married your father. In fact, I didn’t choose to love you, I just did! I fell head over heels for your little personality. Just like I did my own son.
I do however choose to treat you as my own, and I always will.
And I know I will never be your actual mother, you will always be a daughter to me.