At the end of the day, we all want someone to come home to who loves us more than anyone else in this world. Being a single mom doesn’t just magically make that desire go away. Yes, our child comes first above all else, but we still want to love and be loved.
Wanting love and getting love are two very different things, though. It’s not easy to date when you’re a single mom. You don’t have a lot of free time, and what little free time you do have can’t always be spent going out on dates.
You also have the difficult task of thinking twice about every move you make when you’re dating someone. You’re not just thinking of your own wants and needs, but also your child’s.
Still, none of this eliminates that desire to fall in love. You just need to find someone to fall in love with who understands all of the challenges that a single mom faces. Not only do they need to understand it, but they need to be cheering you on through the good and the bad.
That’s easier said than done. Not every man has what it takes to step into a ready-made family. It’s a lot to ask of anyone- to take on the role of a father figure and to step up to the plate that another man left on the table. But when you finally do find that diamond in the rough, it is truly remarkable.
Knowing that a man loves not only you and all your flaws and insecurities, but that he also loves your child, is the most amazing feeling in the world. There’s love, and then there’s loving a single mom. It’s deeper than anything else because you know that this man is loving twice as hard, and he’s not doing it out of obligation–he’s doing it because he wants to.
So yes, I’m a single mom, and yes–I want love. I want love because I know that once I find it, it’s going to be the greatest love I’ve ever had. It’s going to transcend anything I’ve ever experienced before because this man is choosing me. He’s choosing my child. He’s choosing to become a part of this life that I’ve already established and he’s not scared of it–he’s actually embracing it.
I know that a love like that is going to make all the hurt and pain caused by past relationships worth it. He’s going to be the reason that I went through all of it, because had I not gone through it, I may not have appreciated his kind of selfless love.
The journey to find love as a single mom isn’t a smooth one. There will likely be many bumps in the road in the form of men who simply can’t be what you need. There will be times when you will be so frustrated and tired of the dating scene that you may consider throwing in the towel and staying a single mom forever. But if you hold on just long enough, you might find the kind of love that your heart has always hoped for, and when you do, you’ll be glad that you didn’t give up.
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