At seventeen years old, I never thought I’d be a single mom. But there I was. But do we ever really set out to be the only parent in our child’s lives? No. But here we are, killing it! I see you! Your dedication and love and hard work doesn’t go unnoticed. I see you!
ITS NOT ALWAYS FUN AND GAMES
If there’s one thing I’ve learned, we really have to take things day by day. It’s overwhelming, it’s scary, it causes our anxiety to bring us to to our knees in tears. But we got this. Sometimes when we’re laying in bed, the guilt sets in and the tears start flowing and guess what? It’s ok. You know what else? We got this.
WE WANT MORE
We want to make it seem as though we have it all together and that we’re “supermom” but that isn’t always the case. Between working, doctors appointments, school, after school activities, sports, cooking, cleaning and laundry, we become exhausted and overwhelmed. We just want someone to help with the load once in a while. We just want a small break. But, we wait until the kids are asleep, cry a little and pick ourselves back up. We got this.
TELL THOSE THOUGHTS IN YOUR MIND TO SIT DOWN AND STFU!
There are times when we feel so guilty and anxious that we start to compare ourselves to those “perfect” moms. And the thoughts that run through our minds like wildfire start to tear us down. “So-and-so just bought a new vacation home” or “so-and-so just bought their kid a brand new car” or, my favorite “so-and-so has the perfect life”. Hey, brain! STFU. We may live in an apartment with a used car and are as single as a dollar bill, but guess what? We’re killing it! Maybe we can’t give our kids every single thing they want or what we think they should have. But you can guarantee that we will break our backs to give them everything they need. And we’d do it a thousand times over.
WE’RE NOT ALWAYS OK, BUT WE ALWAYS MAKE IT
Life as a single mom is overwhelming. It even sucks sometimes. But those smiles and laughs and those hugs and kisses let us know that we’re doing SO much right. We may not always be ok, but we will be. We may cry a little in our rooms when everyone is asleep but we pick up and carry on.
So even on those thankless days that never seem to end, I see you! I AM YOU! And we’re killing it!
About The Author
My name is Tiffany, I’m 34 years young and a single mama to a teenage boy going into his Junior year in High School.
I live in the wonderful PNW, Washington state to be exact. I am a Loss Prevention Supervisor for a retail store. In the little free time I have, I love cooking and baking. I’m an open book and always say what’s on mind. I’m fierce and funny and am very much ok with making a fool of myself.