To The Man Who Decided to Forget His Daughter…

Being a father doesn’t always have to be DNA

I thought a lot about what I would say to you if you ever showed back up in our life. 

There is a million and one things I thought I needed to get off my chest. 

How bad you hurt me. How much of a coward I thought you are. How much of a regret I hoped you’d have knowing you were missing our daughters’ biggest milestones. 

But then I thought, why should you get the satisfaction of getting to know these amazing things? You don’t deserve to pop up in and out of our life like you have been over the past year. You were never a father to her, and she deserves so much better than you. And she does have better. 

My son’s father, my fiancé, took our daughter in even before she was born and has raised her as if she was his own. He plays with her. Rocks her to sleep. Makes her laugh. Will be there when she needs a shoulder to cry on. He will be there to teach her how to drive, and even be there to scare the boys she ends up dating from being overprotective of her. 

He is an amazing father. He is everything she deserves and more. And when the time comes, if she ever asksabout you, I will tell her the truth. And if she ever wants to reach out, that is her decision. I hope you would make the right decision too. 

What I really want to say is thank you. Thank you for always choosing someone else over your family. Thank you for all the heart ache, worry, and sadness you caused me the last 2 years. Thank you for giving up on both of us. If you didn’t, I wouldn’t have pulled myself together and realized what I deserves, what we deserved. If you didn’t, we wouldn’t be as happy as we are today. We are both so happy and loved the way we should have always been loved. But most of all, thank you for giving me our daughter. She is the most precious, beautiful, outgoing, sassiest little girl. I couldn’t love anyone more. You have no idea what you are missing. And it is okay that you are.

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