The healing process is a lot like the ocean. One day it’s peaceful and smooth. The next day it’s rough and choppy. Just when you think you’ve moved on from one thing, another thing comes up. You feel like you’re floating along fine on Monday, and by Thursday, you’re drowning.
Whether you’re healing from a breakup, the loss of a loved one, a dream that didn’t come to fruition- whatever the case may be- it’s normal for the healing process to ebb and flow. It doesn’t mean there’s something wrong with you, or that you’ll never be fully healed. It just means you’re human.
You can’t heal it if you don’t feel it.
Burying your emotions will only prolong the inevitable. Eventually, the pain will become unbearable and it will bubble to the surface, only to overflow and damage any of the healing you’ve been able to achieve.
It’s important to talk about things and to address your feelings as soon as they come up. Sure, you can keep yourself busy and try not to feel it, but has that ever really worked before? The things you haven’t healed will follow you into new relationships and other aspects of your life, and those new things will suffer because of it.
Healing yourself is brave, even if you struggle along the way.
Don’t for one second think you’re a failure because you’re not fully healed yet. There is no timeline when it comes to healing. Every situation is unique. You take all the time you need because this is your life, and you deserve to be happy again.
There will be struggles, but they aren’t failures. As long as you continue to try, your healing is a success. Even if you have days where you give up and just try not to feel anything at all, it’s still not a failure. We all need a break from our emotions at times, especially when it gets to be too much. Just don’t put your healing on the backburner for too long. Don’t become comfortable living with pain.
You are strong enough to face it, even if it doesn’t feel like it.
It’s honestly amazing how much pain the human body and soul can take. Women give birth to another human being, yet they are right back at it a few days later, taking care of a newborn and a household. Our hearts are broken over and over again, and yet we still find the capacity to love once more.
Even if right now it doesn’t feel like you’re strong enough to make it through this- like you’re not strong enough to ever be healed- you are. You’ve made it through everything you never thought you could before, and you’ll make it through this too. It doesn’t mean you’ll be the same- we are never the same after a great loss. But if you love yourself enough to try, you can be happy again.
Your happiness is worth fighting for. Whatever broke you- whether on purpose or by accident- doesn’t have the power to keep you down unless you let it. Heal. Be happy. The waves won’t last forever.