Mothers are supposed to love their daughters unconditionally. Society casts this idea that mothers and daughters are supposed to be best friends.
However for some women that isn’t the case.
One thing that I’ve come to terms with and understood growing up is just because she gave birth to you doesn’t make her your mother. It isn’t a right or a privilege that you get, despite what that person thinks.
She doesn’t get to use that as blackmail either.
The one thing that I know I roll my eyes at every time I hear it slip out of someone’s mouth is “but she’s still you’re mother so you have to love her and forgive her.”
First off no one has the right to tell you who you have to love and who you have to let be a part of your life. Secondly I am so proud of you if you had the courage to finally say enough is enough and walk away. It isn’t easy.
Being a mother isn’t just birthing you, clothing you, feeding you, or putting on a show so that way the rest of the world thinks you’re doing a great job.
Maybe she’s oblivious to the pain she’s caused you, maybe she lives in a delusional world where she’s done no wrong or maybe there are just too many variables to even begin to understand. It doesn’t make it right.
It’s not an easy thing getting over. Mother’s Day comes around and you see everyone getting so excited about it and you’re torn between gagging and this gnawing feeling in your gut that you don’t get that luxury.
I bet it’s taken years for you to come to grasp with it. It’s potentially made you closed off from others. It’s gotten in the way of relationships, friendships and daily activities at times. You’ll see small traits of her in you and you get so discouraged that any part of her could be seen in you.
You’re not her. You are far from her. You are a caring, intelligent, gentle, kind, and wonderful woman.
You don’t have to forgive her. You don’t have to communicate with her, you don’t have to love her, and you don’t have to acknowledge her.