When You Leave A Single Mom

Dating As A Single Mom

When we first met, I was new to this dating as a single mom thing, hell, I was new to the whole mom thing. Dating as a single mom is hard, you can’t just pawn your baby off when you want to hang out with someone so I knew you two would have to meet eventually.

I let you in to my daughters life

I was very reluctant to let you in as a part of my life and especially hers, but I did…

She was 5 months old when you met her, I still remember the first time. I remember seeing your eyes light up as you picked her up, as you fed her, and I knew from then the bond you guys would have. Two and half years later and she loved you more than anything.

She didn’t have her dad in her life and when you came along, you changed all of that. You stepped up on your own and took her in and for that I will be forever thankful but it’s also one of my biggest regrets. I was unsure if I wanted her to call you dad but you reassured me it was fine, you were her dad, and I believed you…

It was good until it wasn’t

We had our good times and our bad but she always should’ve been separate from it. Every fight, every time you left I had to beg you to come see her, and sometimes you would, but I never should’ve had to beg. This last time when you left for good without a warning, a good bye, a kiss my ass, she suffered the worse.

You can leave me but not her

I made you promise that you would never leave her, no matter what happened to us, and you broke that promise with no warning.

She asks about you all the time and I am stuck cleaning up your selfish mess. Listening to her cry, listening to her say “dada” all the time and having no idea what to tell her. Squeezing a picture of you two, crying, and I don’t have it in me take it away from her.

My heartbreak over us is slowly getting better but my heartbreak for her has just begun. I hope she is young enough to forget you eventually, but until then, I have hard road ahead of me because you will never understand how it feels.

So, to the guy who just left her, I feel sorry for you and I hope you’re happy with the decisions you made. She is growing up so fast and you’re missing all of the beautiful moments. She is so funny, so loving, and so smart.

You left us and we loved you

I pray one of these days you grow up and realize you did us both wrong. You moved on to someone else, no warning at all. You didn’t just give up on us, you gave up on her. I hope one of these days you’re sorry for hurting her. You’re sorry that you just left her after promising to be there for her no matter what. I pray you don’t ever do this to another girl and her children. I pray you look back and realize you made the biggest mistake of your life.