Your Opinion is Exactly That

 

Quickly you realize that your opinion is one of many in this big world. You leave school, and you are naive to think that the bullies and haters are gone for good.

You still manage to find those bullies sitting behind desks in the corporate world, or pushing their child on a swing at the park.

I have only been in this realm of parenting for a year and a half, and I was not prepared for the amount of this I would encounter.

Shamefully, we all have to admit that we do it at some point or another.

We silently judge the mother whose child is throwing a tantrum, or not behaving in public. We walk away and silently promise ourselves we will do it better when we become parents ourselves.

And then you become a parent, and you realize that some of those judgments were passed too harshly or quickly.

You realize how hard this role actually is, and you send mental apology notes to all those moms you’ve judged in the past.

The judgments from other parents and even those who are not yet parents can be absolutely traumatizing. Sometimes these judgments are vocalized.

 

Sometimes it is just a look you get, and instantly you know you have been judged. No matter what you do, it is never good enough for someone else.

You get judged by being a stay at home mom or leaving to work out of the home. You are judged for feeding your child organic or choosing to let them have a cookie from time to time. There are a million different topics like these.

As long as your child is safe and loved, everyone has the right to parent how they see fit. 

Just remember that these hypercritical friends, family, and outsiders aren’t always trying to be hurtful. Find solace in those people who understand the struggle.

Keep in mind that most of the time these harsh judgement are based on other’s insecurities.

Fuel yourself with knowing that you are making the best decisions for your child. Its simple fact that no one knows your child better then you and your significant other.

The jabs won’t stop hurting, but knowing you have support to help you through it is the key to surviving the dreaded parent bullies (and public tantrums).