Yes, we all know how cute babies are. We know that we’ll lose sleep and our kids will be the greatest love of our lives. But here’s 9 truths that people don’t often say..
1. You are not prepared.
You may think that you know all you need to know. Maybe you’ve read all of the parenting books, websites, soaked in a bunch of mom advice. But the truth is, parenting is completely different than what you think it will be. Everything that you read may come in handy, but you will never be fully prepared for what you are about to do. Never.
2. Everyone is so damn judgy.
There is controversy over what you feed your kid, how you discipline your kid, where your child sleeps, what your child wears, how you potty train. Literally anything you can think of that has to do with your child, someone will have something to say about it.This may bother you at first. One piece of advice: eff them. Do what’s best for your child.
3. Your child will throw a tantrum in public.
Everyone who’s never been a mother thinks their children will be perfect little angels who will listen to them in the store and never act like a maniac because “they will know better.” HAHAHAHAHA, yeah. Good luck with that.
4. You will at some point have had every bodily fluid possible on you.
I mean, yeah, it sounds gross, but you kinda just get used to it.
5. You will waste a shit ton of money.
Clothes, shoes, toys, you name it. Every time you go to the store, even if your child is not with you, something there will remind you of them. $400 later you’ve got them a whole new toy collection and wardrobe.
6. You will experience worry like never before.
You will worry about SIDS and about why they haven’t pooped in 3 days. You will worry about daycare and if your child is okay. You will worry about how other kids treat yours, germs and kidnappers. You will worry about everything under the damn sun that could impact your child.
I know that my biggest fear has always been knowing that one day my child will grow up to see the pain, hatred and bitterness of the world. All of the things those innocent eyes are blind to right now.
7. Your child will sometimes be the most precious little angel…
And other times, they will be evil little Satan spawns straight from the pits of hell. Learn patience. It’s a long and bumpy ride, mama.
8. Your feelings will get hurt.
Of course, your child loves you. But, they will sometimes choose other people over you, say other people’s names before yours, be more happy to see someone else, etc. Not to mention, toddler speak without any kind of filter. At all. Don’t ask questions you don’t want the answers to.
9. You will make tons of mistakes.
And that’s completely okay. Being a parent is a learning process, and different things work for different children.
Do not allow others to put you down or make you doubt yourself. There is no such thing as a perfect mother, but to be a great mother, all you have to do is make sure your child is happy and healthy.. and your job is done.