Mother Daughter And The Wedding Day

Daughters Marry. And it is such an exciting time for you, Mom. Your daughter is getting married! Congratulations, Mom. This is a big step. You have taught your daughter compassion and love and you are ready to wish her and her new partner the best. It is a big send off for you. And her entire upbringing comes down to this moment.  This is huge for Mom and huge for Daughter. So what boundaries need to be set before the wedding planning gets underway? How do you as a mom give your daughter all the support she needs, emotional and otherwise, without overstepping your boundaries?

The fact is, most women who marry these days, are marrying older. When daughters marry at a more mature age they are emotionally ready for the marriage and the planning themselves. At the same time, daughters are more mindful not to hurt their mothers feelings. A more mature daughter is apt to be more considerate when it comes to the nurturing desires of the mother.

Here are ten ways that you, as a mom, can make the process easier for your daughter, the bride to be.

Wedding Planning -Listen To Your Daughter

First off, be a great listener. And remember, it is HER day. She may ask you for advice on everything, or she may have a lot of it figured out for herself already. So be a good listener and offer to help where she tells you she needs it.

And while she is painting her ideal world, fairytale wedding, start jotting things down. She will need someone to keep accurate record of her thoughts and whims.

Buying the Wedding Dress

Help her with picking out the wedding dress. But that means, helping her find the dress she wants. Remember, this is her day! So help her narrow down a list of places to go to look for dresses or help her look at gowns online. Your main role is to help her find what she is looking for.

Help The Bride With Wedding and Reception Locations

The most tedious task is booking a wedding location and reception. There are many factors to consider. So if you listened well to your Daughters dream wedding ideal, then help her with the research and call the locations to find out if you can get a good match.

Meeting The Parents Of The Groom

Whether or not you have already met. The parents of your Daughters “Groom To Be”  are going to be part of your family unit in the near future. So plan to get together with them. Have a toast to the bride and groom and then use that opportunity to narrow some things down, like potential attendance based on family size, etc.

Your Outfit

Choosing The Mother Of The Bride Dress is an important task that can be a fun thing for you to do with your daughter. And it can take the pressure off of just shopping for her dress. Also, be sure to check in with your daughter’s future mother in law so that you can both wear colors that are complimentary for family photos.

Crunch The Numbers

Weddings can be so expensive. But they don’t have to be. If everyone contributes and corners are cut, a wonderful wedding can be achieved without breaking the bank. So speak with your daughter and the grooms parents to figure out who pays for what and see where you stand. The earlier you know your budget the better you can plan.

Guests and Lodging

Once you have the headcount figured out, accommodate the guests with lodging info and make sure you get an accurate headcount early on in the process.

Wedding Shower

While you do not have to plan the wedding shower, you can work with your daughters Maid Of Honor or whomever has been assigned to the task. Just offer to help wherever you can. And unless asked, do not take over.

Wedding Day

Your Daughter will love your help being the wonderful hostess and making guests feel comfortable. Just know when to offer to help, but allow your daughter to make choices that work for her wedding. She will let you know when she needs advice or help with something specific.

When Daughters Marry- Know Your Strengths

Maybe you are the best baker in town, and making the cake is the sweetest thing you can do for your daughter. Or preparing her favorite meal for the rehearsal dinner. Just offer up your strengths and let your daughter decide what she wants.  The main thing is that you are there to share this important life-changing moment with her.