Breakups are hard, there’s no doubt about that. But what makes them slightly more bearable is when you have your best friend there to help you pick up the pieces.
Except what happens when she's not, because the breakup was with her?
Losing your person is something you'd never wish on anyone, but it happens. Sometimes you drift apart, some arguments can’t be resolved, and sometimes people just aren’t who you thought they were.
1. Your go-to isn’t your go-to anymore.
Whenever something happens, whether it be good news or bad, your best friend is the first person you tell. It’s a pretty lonely feeling when you realize your go-to doesn’t want to hear from you anymore.
2. Nothing in the world can compare to losing the person you spent every day with.
Let’s be real, there are very few people we can truly spend an endless amount of time with and not get sick of. Your best friend was one of them. When you break up with your best friend, everything from midnight adventures to casual lunches go away too.
3. You lose your nonjudgmental secret-keeper and advice-giver.
It’s hard enough to find someone you can trust with all your secrets and mistakes, especially when you want that someone to never judge you. That’s what happens when you lose your best friend. Suddenly, when you need help or someone to talk to, you realize they don’t care about your life anymore.
4. Replacing them seems like an impossible task.
Sure you have other friends, but your relationship with them won’t be the same as it was with your BFF. It’s hard to find someone who just gets you the way they did.
5. Especially because you can’t really have a rebound from a best friendship.
When you end a relationship, it’s easy to just find someone new to keep you company for the night and help numb the pain. Best friends aren’t that easy. Best friendships take time.
6. You know things will never be the same.
If you and your best friend drifted apart, you know that every time you see them, it will be awkward. Things clearly aren’t the way they used to be, so it’s basically like you don’t know each other anymore.
7. Days are so lonely without them.
You never realized it before, but you and your best friend were probably always in constant contact. Even when you weren’t together, you were constantly texting or Snapchatting the little details of your day to each other. It’s a heartbreaking feeling when you see how empty your days become without them.
8. You have to explain why they’re not around anymore.
People have gotten used to seeing you and your best friend together. So when you break up with a friend and someone asks, “Where’s so-and-so? You two are always together,” it’s just another reminder that you two aren’t friends.
9. When you lose your best friend, you lose a piece of yourself.
Losing someone you identified so well with means you lose a bit of yourself when they leave. And you can never get that piece back.
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