“[When] you will lose someone you can’t live without, it’s like having a broken leg that never heals perfectly, that still hurts when the weather gets cold, but you learn to dance with the limp.” ― Anne Lamott
I think the hardest part about grief is that it sneaks up on you when you least expect it, but that's only because it never really leaves. You learn to live with its constant presence in your broken heart. You could have so many good days in a row until a single thing sets you back so far and it feels like you lost this person yesterday.
Anniversaries, birthdays, special days, and big moments in our lives are things that seem to automatically send us right back to that dark, grief stricken place we were at when this person left us. Regardless of how good things have been, these days make us feel like we have taken a million steps backwards. They leave us mourning the absence of this person all over again.
You are not alone.
I know sometimes it’s easy to feel like nobody understands what you're going through. I am here to tell you they do. I do. So many other people do.
There are people all around you that have suffered this same feeling. Even if they may not always talk about it or share their sadness, they feel it too.
You are stronger than you feel.
I know right now you feel weak. Right now you feel so weak you don’t know how to even pull yourself up out of bed. But you're actually stronger than you’ve ever been. You have overcome something unimaginable.
You have lost someone that meant the world to you and you have survived it. You may still be a work in progress, but you are surviving. You are so much stronger than you feel right now.
Your loved one is so proud.
You get yourself out of bed most mornings. You have purpose in your day. You have people around you that you know you have to support and be there for.
You are changing the world in your own special, unique, way. You are doing so great. The person you lost is so unbelievably proud of you. Live this life for them. They are right there by your side the entire way.
It will get easier.
It may not feel like it now. It may not feel like it on your worst days. But I promise, the bad days don’t come as frequently.
The moments of weakness and sadness don’t happen as often. Although part of us will probably always grieve this person, the grief doesn’t sting this bad forever.
You are going to be okay. Maybe not today, maybe not tomorrow, but very soon, you are going to be okay.
One day at a time.
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